In the second of my collaborations with Capital Punter, we wish to explore the important considerations both Escorts and Punters need to think of when making a booking.
In looking at this issue in some detail, we hope everyone will appreciate the reason as to why certain protocols exist. I will start by discussing some of the precautions an Escort takes and then I shall cover some of the considerations for a Punter.
An Escort’s view
Security is important to both the Punter and the Escort. There are some scary, weird and nasty people out there, but hopefully if you have your safety and security in mind you won’t meet any of those. I honestly believe that the Punters’ safety is just as important as the Escorts’. The Punter doesn’t know if the Escort he has seen on a website or spoken to on the phone is really the person he is going to meet. Scams are rare, but they do happen. Here I am going to talk about how I make sure I’m safe and my security is in place for a first visit by a Punter. I am not going to talk about all my security procedures here, my own or of other Escorts. It’s not that it’s all top secret, but if we were to tell you about all of our procedures then that could make us unsafe to some people.
I never answer withheld numbers. I will answer landline numbers but will ask you for your mobile number, the one that if you make an appointment with me you will use to contact me on when you arrive at the landmark I have asked you to call me from. If you phone me from a public phone box I will ask you to call me from a mobile. If you don’t have a mobile then I am sorry I am not prepared to see you. When you make an appointment with me I make a note in my diary of your name, your mobile number and the time and length of the appointment. My diary is kept in a secure place and once the week is over the pages get destroyed after I used the details for my accounting purposes. If you become a regular client then I will ask if I can add your phone number to my phone book in my phone. I will never call or text you without your permission or without you calling or texting me first.
I often use Google to look up phone numbers, to see if there are any warnings attached to the number or to see if you are a genuine client. I also use Google for outcalls, for Hotels that I have not visited before and for private residences. It’s good to know the layout of places and where to park, and to make sure that a residence actually exists. If you have requested an outcall to a private residence I will require you name, landline number and your full address. You will need to be on the electoral register at that address as I do a search online to check the details. If the details do not match then I will not visit you.
I always listen to my gut instinct, to what you are saying, how you say it. If I feel comfortable with you then I am more than happy to proceed in arranging some time together. I would rather lose a booking than not feel safe.
I take these precautions very seriously, and if I feel safe and happy then our time together will be relaxed and happy too.
A Punter’s perspective
As a Punter, security is an important issue for me too. I do fully appreciate the greater risks apply to the lady, but we Punters need to take some simple precautions as well.
Whether it is because I have been very careful about where I go and whom I see, I have not anything major happen to me, although I have been verbally threatened on two occasions.
My initial concerns before meeting someone for the first time is whether the location is discreet and safe. After reading Penny’s line on looking up addresses on Google, this is a great idea. However, as one often does not get the address till the last minute, it will not always be possible.
From reading various field reports over the years, my number one concern has always been whether anyone else will be in the property.
I have heard accounts where a boyfriend is in the premises and will either threaten a Punter or the girl will cause a distraction to allow the Punter’s belongings to be robbed. Precautions I take if I do not know a lady is to have all of my valuables in my bag, which I take with me to the bathroom when I go to freshen up.
For this reason alone, I am very cautious about meeting anyone where I suspect a partner is involved and I feel very uncomfortable if I hear other people in the premises. As Penny said, go with your gut instinct. If you are not sure, do not meet or leave as soon as you feel the situation is not right.
On this point of other people being in the premises, I have found it a very awkward scenario where one can clearly hear someone else in the place. What do you say? I am loathed to ask who it is, as I do not wish to intrude outside the lady’s business areas. However, I do need to feel comfortable too. A polite enquiry has normally sufficed.
Another precaution I take is I do not meet in hotels where I have to book the room, unless I already know the lady. The reason for this is I have heard of a common sting where the lady will arrive, payment is made and she goes to the bathroom “to change”. In reality, she makes her escape out of the room, with a burly minder waiting just in case the Punter twigs and takes badly to being ripped off!
For me, there is another consideration for security, which I feel is an imperative for the gentleman Punter, namely to make an Escort feel as at ease with me as soon as possible, preferably before we even meet. We Punters have the luxury of knowing a fair bit about the lady, including what she looks like, before we meet. Ask yourself, would we Punters be prepared to meet someone we knew nothing about? Please put yourself in the lady’s shoes! Try to be open with a lady and to reassure her with a bit of courteous communication and a little background to yourself.
As Penny rightly pointed out, there are enough strange people around. Therefore, I really believe we have a responsibility towards our lady companions to make them feel as safe as possible. Every lady has the right to make a living without working in fear. Whilst incidents are rare for Punters and I hope for Escorts too, one is far too many in my book.
Surely security is a perfect starting point for Punters and Escorts to work in partnership? By working in unison and understanding each other’s methods and their reasons, no-one need compromise their safety.
With thanks to Capital Punter for co-writing this topic and for your continued co-operation. There is a link on the right to Capital Punter’s Blog.
Penny x x x
Captil Punters Blog can be found here : http://www.capitalpunterblog.com/