So you have decided that you want to become a sex worker. There are probably many reasons why you have made this choice. It’s not as easy as some people think it is, but if you set yourself up right and do your research it can be a very rewarding role, not just financially.
Firstly I would strongly suggest that you make yourself familiar with www.saafe.info . It’s a UK based support site for Escorts by Escorts. It has many articles on how to set yourself up, and a great discussion forum where you can ask questions. It also has a Warning section which you should keep an eye on.
So you still wish to continue? Ok, here are some things you need to do and to think about.
For your basic set up you will need: Work Phone/Working Persona/Work Email/Condoms and Toys/Sexy Lingerie
Here are other issues that you need to consider.
How are you going to operate? As an Independent lady (working for yourself), for an Agency (where they get you work and you pay them a commission) or a Parlour (where you work in house for them and pay them a commission). The legalities of working these different ways can be found elsewhere on the Escort Buddys site. Some sex workers like to start off working for an Agency to ‘learn the trade’ before going Independent.
You will need a new identity, your working persona. It is advisable NOT to use your real name if you wish to keep your working life a secret from people who know you. Research your chosen name to make sure that there is no one of the same name in the area you will be working. If you are going to be working independently and are going to have your own website then check that the name you want for yourself and your website is not already taken. Base your new identity on yourself as it will be easier to remember, but do make sure you are careful about what personal information about yourself that you give out to clients and other workers.
You may also need a cover story to explain where you are when you are working. Keep it simple and easy to remember. Maybe a job role that you already know in case anyone in your personal life asks questions.
It’s good to get a separate work phone, a cheap pay as you go will do. You can then keep it turned off when you are not working or unable to answer it. It’s good to have a personal voicemail message on it; it will encourage clients to phone you back. It’s also a good idea to set up a work email.
Your sexual health should be very important to you. I would advise finding your local GUM clinic and get yourself checked out before you start working and then at regular intervals afterwards. Your GUM clinic might have a special quick track service for sex workers, you don’t have to give your real name but you will need to give a contact number. You can use your work phone number. Be honest with the staff that way they can give you the best advice and help. You will be offered free condoms and lube too. They may also have information on any local support groups for sex workers.
What about your emotional health. This is also important. Many sex workers work in isolation and in secret. This can be very stressful. There are many forums where you can chat, share issues and get advice. Be aware of burn out, it’s very easy in this line of work to get burn out. Factor in some down time for you and your body and personal space. The way I keep emotionally sane is having some good friends around me in the business and outside of it who know what I do. I am then able to share and chat about my experiences. In time you will be able to network with other ladies. One word of warning be careful who you befriend in this industry not all are what they seem. I’ve learnt from experience.
If you decide to work independently then you will need to think about how you are going to promote yourself and where. What services will you offer, I would suggest that you do not offer anything you are not comfortable with. Will you have your own website, or just use local/national directories. What services will you provide, what are your unique selling points that will make you stand out from other local ladies? What fees will you charge? I have put together a UK Advertising Guide and if you would like a copy please email me. It’s a work in progress and will be updated on a regular basis. Will you be offering outcalls (where you visit the client) or incalls (where the client comes to you) or maybe both. If you choose to have your own website remember to keep your personal details private, this can be done for a small extra fee with the provider of your domain name. You don’t want anyone doing a whois on your website and finding who you really are.
If you decide to work for an Agency or a Parlour then when you go for your interview make sure that you ask them questions. How do they get their clients, how do they vet them, how do they keep you safe, what is their commission, what are their expectations of you. They will want some professional photographs of you, they will probably have their own photographer that they like to use. Ask who the photos belong to, the Agency or you. Usually you if you have had to pay for them. If the Agency then ask them what they do with them as and when you stop working for them. Beware of Scam Agencies, they will ask you for a joining fee and say that you will get it back after your first booking. You will never get any bookings from them or your money back! There is good advice and a list of such Agencies on www. Saafe.info .
Part of your promotion will be photos. If you are starting out on a budget then some good unprofessional ones will be just fine. You may want to show your face but you also may not want to. You might have tattoos or marks that you might want to hide in photos. This can be done in many ways. I have a professional photo shoot at least once a year. Its good fun and always feels like a nice pamper day. It’s a good idea to watermark your photos as they can be stolen and misused. Ask for recommendations for photographers if you see photos that you like on other ladies sites.
What about your personal safety? It’s good to keep an eye on your local directories and their warning section. It’s a good idea to have a security buddy, someone who knows where you are , who you are seeing and their details and someone who you can check in with when your booking has finished. Agree a safety plan with your security buddy, what do you want them to do should you not call them? They don’t have to be local to where you are, as they could inform the Hotel management or the Police if they have real concerns about you. What kind of clients do you want to see, how will you vet them? Remember you don’t have to accept anyone that you don’t feel comfortable with. Go with your gut feeling about someone and be aware there are many timewasters out there. Don’t accept bookings from withheld numbers or phone boxes. If a client is genuine he will be happy for you to have his punter phone number.
Whether you are working in the industry short term for a quick gain or as a long term career please do your research and keep safe.
There’s quite a lot here to think about. Please also read my article on Getting Out of the Industry as there are some points there that you need to think about when starting to work in the sex industry.
If you feel I can help you or support you in any way then please do get in touch via email on firstname.lastname@example.org.